Friday, February 08, 2008

Crisis? What crisis?

I had big plans to be a better blogger this year. Following my ill-horse-induced hiatus, I started to pick up the threads in December, writing, visiting and generally settling back into the blogosphere. But it's already February and it's almost two weeks since I have blogged.

I blame Facebook. I joined in January, just to have a look. Initially, that's all I did. Then my sister joined and quickly became addicted. She badgered me about it and I started to play. Then I started to understand the attraction. Just like when I began blogging, almost a year ago, I discovered a new and - dare I say it - addictive world. Except Facebook wasn't a totally new world; it was peopled by lots of lost friends, colleagues and acquaintances. Suddenly, I was corresponding with people I hadn't seen in more than a decade and thinking about the fun I used to have; Friday afternoons in the pub that stretched into drunken evenings; sunny days when we sat, legs dangling out of first floor windows singing along with The Monkees; feeling filled with energy and enthusiasm.

Of course, it's inevitable I will compare that with how I feel now. Yes, I am quite content, but I am tired. I start to think - again - that I'm getting old. I look at the subject matter of my blogs so far this year and there is a slight theme emerging: worrying about my age. I still have a year and a half left in my thirties but I feel I am on the cusp betwixt young and old. I don't know how old you have to be for a mid-life crisis. Is it too early to buy a Harley Davidson?

20 comments:

Expatmum said...

You're still in your thirties and you're worrying about your age? My dear, you haven't even peaked yet! Besides, there's nowt you can do about the day you were born.
A Harley sounds good though - just watch for those speed traps on the A1!

Yorkshire Pudding said...

Late thirties? Heavens, you are just a girl M&M! I am not one to give advice normally but you need to think young... not think old 'cos as I have said before that's how ageing speeds up in my view. Don't get an effing Harley because all motorbikes are bloody dangerous! Where are the seatbelts on them? And that is NOT being an old fuddy duddy. Who wants to die young?

Anonymous said...

Yes, hitting the big Four-Oh is a big thing, but if you think that is bad, wait until you get to 44, which it is alleged is the most depressing year, after which things get better.

Of course life would be easier if women could go on having babies for as long as men. But maybe you don't want. Nevertheless I think it's worth taking a step back and looking at where your life and career is going.

Or maybe doing a bit of travelling and getting in touch with your self - not necessarily on a Harley - but don't just ignore the feeling as you could just tramp into a marsh and get stuck.

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Nunhead Mum of One said...

It's certainly the weather to be driving a Harley although, who knows, it'll be peeing down tomorrow....I'm four years off 40 and am planning my party already. Of course, by the time the fateful day arrives I shall probably be a nervous wreck.

Anonymous said...

Hmmm.. Have thought some more about your predicament. If you think being 40 means you are about to seize up, consider this.

Julie Christie is about to get her second Oscar, and I wasn't even born when she had her first one ! She may have a few years on me, but she looks like sex on a stick - so you have plenty to look forward to.

http://image.guardian.co.uk/sys-images/Film/Pix/pictures/2008/01/22/christie_sq.jpg

Or have a look on the internet at John McCain, who is running for prez at 71 .

Nothing too amazing about that you might think, until you realise that his mum is helping his campaign AND SHE IS NINETY SIX !!

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=clUO2Id6K1U

The wonders of cryogenics...

GoneBackSouth said...

Hi M&M. Thanks for visiting my site! I have a sort of theory on this notion of "mid-life crisis". I think life is one long series of crises: we grow up by going from one to the next, handling most of them with a little help from our friends. Things calm down, we have a new crisis, learn, adjust, calm down again. And so on. School-days, teens, twenties, thirties, forties, fifties, they all bring somthing unique to deal with. The "mid-life" crisis is simply the only one that has a name!!!

mountainear said...

Crikey M&M!

Cusp of young and old??? Tired? Don't get a motor bike - get a grip woman!

Expatmum's right - there's nowt you can do about the day you were born. Enjoy the here and now.

Anonymous said...

gonebacksouth - definitely some words of wisdom there methinks !!

eminem - you could cheer yourself up by doing some retail therapy...

http://www.knickerpicker.com/dressing-room.asp

Or you could sort out all your money worries by starting a similar site for men's underwear, featuring Mr Jeremy Paxman as a model.

Now there's a thought...

mutterings and meanderings said...

OK, so 'cusp of old and young' maybe a tad strong... perhaps what more hits my mark is 'teetering on the brink of not being young anymore ..."

Anon, I have no money to buy new knickers. Beside Santa Claus brought me some!

ziggi said...

never buy a Hardly Dangerous - buy something exciting!

ziggi said...

ps in my 40th year my life change so extraordinarily and dramatically that it was worth waiting for!

Gill said...

Don't bother with the harley- get a toy boy.

Winchester whisperer said...

I don't think the grey mare would be impressed by that. Am still avoiding FB - far too addictive.

Mopsa said...

Blimey - in my books you're a girl, a youth, a maid as they say in Devon. Bugger all you can do about age, so forget it and do something frivolous instead. I won't even start about the numbers of grey hairs I have these days. Life is as good with them as without.

Pig in the Kitchen said...

I can't go near Facebook, it would send my addictive personality into overdrive!

Shouldn't you be buying the horse equivalent of a harley? an olympic showjumper or something?!
Pigx

Anonymous said...

http://uncutvideo.aol.com/videos/9d454ac32bf33f93f490e3b8864beb1

You could try 'horse-surfing' ?

The Grocer said...

42 for the mid life crisis, used to be anyway. Buy the Harley, sod the cost see you on the way south.

Rob Clack said...

Good grief, woman, why on earth haven't you had a motorbike for years? Ignore the wimps who say they're dangerous! Of course they are! That's what it's all about! For crying out loud, you can't wrap yourself in cotton wool all your life!

@themill said...

How would I possibly know.......